Individual Counselling

Are you struggling in life, with a habit or in your relationships?

I can help detangle your thoughts, reframe your story and help you have a healthier life and relationships.

Unprocessed, misunderstood or ununderstood feelings can cause a lot of confusion and pain in life. You might feel that you do not have the life you want or that you cannot function in life like you want. Feeling of rejection, unloved, anger, frustration, can can be quite hurtful and can interfere in the quality of relationships you want.

Your obligations in life might be at odds with your feelings and that can lead to a lot of confusion. You might love someone but also feel really angry towards them. You might be afraid to address the anger because you don't want to change the relationship you have with them. And yet you cannot get rid of the anger.

You can end up with a lot of tangled thoughts when there is conflict between what you want to do and what you should do.

Through counselling, I help my clients improve their relationship with themselves, improve their self esteem, learn to work through addictive habits, replace dysfunctional behaviours with healthy expression of feelings, learn to have better relationships and lead a more fulfilling life. A large part of this happens through ownership of feelings and expression of needs in a healthy manner.

 

What happens in Individual Counselling

Counselling is often not a quick moving change. Change in counselling often comes through several conversations about the same subject from different angles. We talk about things and address them in the order you want. The process is generally not a linear one. You are free to choose how you address your needs in therapy and set the pace as you see fit.

Other than managing emotional safety, I look forward to partnering with you in the pace and content of your journey.

People come to counselling when something is bothering them. Be it an addiction, a traumatic event in your past, a traumatic past, intrusive thoughts, excessive anxiety, relationship problems, or something else. In counselling with me you get to talk about your concerns. To understand yourself and think more clearly.

I can help you detangle your thoughts. And with detangling comes clarity of thought. The fog lifts from the road you want to travel on. Other times, we may need to go into specifics and examining theories and examples to help you think things through.

Reframing a story

Our stories shape who we are. Interpreting a story as traumatic, considering it unworthy of telling, being embarrassed of it, or worse being ashamed of it, viewing ourselves as un-worthy, and/or viewing our needs as insignificant means that we don't get to tell our story. Therapy not only helps you tell your story but also helps you frame it in way that you can understand it and make peace with it.

Benefits of Counselling

Self-Esteem

Improving self-esteem and self-worth are generally at the heart of most individual counselling work. Sometimes it happens through other things that we are working and sometimes it is the thing that people want to work on specifically.

Improving Relationships

Relationships are often thought of as other people. Counselling is about improving the conversation you are having with yourself. Your relationship with others automatically improves if you are having better conversations with yourself.

Conscious Living

You may not know why you feel a certain way or why you behave in a particular fashion. Counselling helps you understand yourself so you can make conscious choices and decisions rather than reacting to what is going on.

Managing Feelings

Not knowing how your feel or what you feel can be just as difficult as having too many feelings and not knowing how to manage them. Counselling helps you understand your feelings and work your way to emotional literacy, emotional regulation and emotional intelligence.

Purpose in Life

You might have been living but perhaps feel lost, or without purpose. Trauma, mistakes, shame from our past can stop us from looking, finding or recognising the purpose we seek. Counselling helps you reframe thoughts and feelings, so you can find purpose.

Changing Habits

Addiction (to alcohol, sex, porn, mobile phones), procrastination, waking up late, not exercising, eating too much or too little, not sleeping enough, watching TV - whatever the dysfunctional habit you are suffering. Counselling can help you change your relationship with it.

 

Gurpreet Singh

About Me

I have over 10 years of experience in Counselling. And many years of working with charities and mental health projects.

My journey began with a desire for self-exploration. I started to enjoy my work so much that I decided to train as a therapist. Working with addictions, anger, relationships, self-esteem, stress, and many other issues. I realised that I found this work very enriching and rewarding to my life. The more I did it, the more I enjoyed it. And the journey has carried on.

I come from an IT and Business Consultancy background and have retrained to become a therapist more than a decade ago. I am also a qualified Yoga teacher.

My style of working is conversational and my technique is integrative. This means that I draw upon different theories to inform my work. I let client needs and preferences determine the style of working rather than let the needs fit into a prescribed model. I join you in your journey of self exploration and you the sessions are tend interactive to be an interactive.

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I am a registered and accredited counsellor and psychotherapist with BACP (Registration number 101942) and abide by their code of ethics. I am also approved by various insurance companies like BUPA, AXA and others.

What Else I Can Help You With

Frequently Asked Questions

WHAT IS COUNSELLING

Counselling is a part of talking therapies. It provides you with a non-judgemental and confidential environment to explore what is going on for you as an individual or as a couple. You can talk about anything that you want to think through, process, explore or discuss with someone who is trained to listen and help you come up with solutions. I can help you build a framework to think through and process things but the best solutions are those that you develop yourself and have ownership for. I can help you do that.

HOW DOES COUNSELLING WORK

My objectivity is essential to the work. This ensures that my only interest remains in helping you arrive at your own solutions. We talk, we listen, we laugh, we connect and we explore. And we process the things that are upsetting you. I bring my training, my learning, my professional experience and life experience to help you think things through. I help you reframe things, normalise emotions, process feelings and understand yourself and each other better. Above all I help you overcome the hurdles that change arguments into healthy discussions. I find that as your relationship with yourself and each other improves, the relationship automatically improves and intimacy grows.

HOW LONG DOES COUNSELLING TAKE

I don’t get to determine that. You do. Factors influencing the length of time it will take is dependent on things like – the change you seek, your couple dynamic, how long you have been experiencing the problems, your motivation for change and others. As you progress through sessions, you start to experience the change and the impact that they have on your relationship. When the relationship starts to work again, usefulness of sessions starts to run out and we all know that the work is coming to an end. View the counselling process I adopt in my sessions.

WHAT EXPERIENCE DO YOU HAVE

I am a BACP Accredited counsellor and have over 9 years of experience. This means that I have done the training, have also passed through the criteria of the governing body to gain accreditation level and am experienced. I am also approved by insurance companies like BUPA and AXA for my work. You can verify my BACP Accreditation on their website.

WHAT KIND OF COUPLES DO YOU WORK WITH

I work with all kinds of couples. Straight, gay lesbian, open relationships, monogamous, etc. I have a particular interest in multi cultural relationships. They present a specific kind of challenge because the relationship differences are lost in cultural differences if not understood well.

WHAT IS YOUR SUCCESS RATE

I help clients explore their relationship and contribute in equal parts to making it work. I cannot collude with one person against the other but I can help you when both partners contribute to working towards making the relationship work. A vast majority stay together and tell me, when counselling is ending, that their relationship is in a better place than when they started. A tiny percentage part ways because that is what they both feel is right for them. That is very rare but does happen. My job is to help you understand each other. To stay together or not is a decision you make – not me!

ARE THE SESSIONS CONFIDENTIAL

I take confidentiality very seriously. Everything you discuss with me is confidential between us barring two things: 1) if you or someone else is at risk and 2) if I am required by law to break confidentiality. Other than that, it’s all confidential.