Healthy Relationships
Conflict over money, infidelity, parenting, extended family arguments, differing life goals or life changes are some of the reasons why partners come to couples counselling. There are also those who have fallen out of love but may or may not know it yet. The plate is full Often couples can deal with one problem at
Anger
Arguments in couples are usually marked by two people trying to convince each other that they are right. They are fuelled by adrenaline and therefore can bring anger, raised voices, intense body language, blaming and maybe finger pointing with them. Why do couples argue? People have differences. That is just a fact of life. About
Anger
Anger is a part of the normal human emotional spectrum. Unless you have reached a state of nirvana, you will experience anger from time to time. That is perfectly normal and in that way, I will not be unique to you. But there can be too much of it. It may get in the way
Healthy Relationships
Healthy boundaries in relationships are highly recommended and are an essential part of effective communication in couples. What are boundaries We often only think of boundaries in terms of physical objects or territories. For example, boundaries are found on the football pitches or cricket grounds, or perhaps in land ownership. These are symbolised by a
Multi-cultural
Culture plays an important role in a person’s development. It teaches how to think, behave and follow a set of behaviours that are considered a part of the “norm” within a society. With the best of intentions, couple relationships are hard to navigate without the cultural difference. But if there are cultural differences in the
Politics
Does the political situation in a country impact relationships? Aboslutely it does! I recently spoke to New Statesman about relationships during Brexit. Knowing how you are going to put food on the table and how you are going to pay your bills are some of the most important things to think about. They tend to
Addiction
I appeared on BBC Asian Radio show last night to talk about if pornography was a problem in relationships. You can hear the full programme on the Mobeen Azhar show on BBC iPlayer. It depends. It depends on the relationship and what you both agree to. It all depends on how comfortable you are with
Relationships
Most successful relationships are grounded on some basic building blocks. Get them right and it is a relationship that you can enjoy and cherish. Get it wrong and misery awaits. So what can you do to get it right? Centre your questions around three things – values, communication and ability to resolve differences. I was
Depression
Why are mobile phones damaging to relationships? Most couples argue about use of mobile phones. Most people are less aware of their own behaviour but are much more aware of the impact of their partners mobile phone usage on them. A recent study links depression and anxiety to maladaptive and excessive mobile phone usage. But
Addiction
Why are mobile phones are so addictive ? In most face to face relationships, particularly amongst couples, mobile phone has become an area of annoyance and conflict. More people complain about their partners mobile phone usage than anything else. Why is that? Mobile has become an extension of ourselves. The many devices that we used